1. A noticeable change in his behavior towards you.
For the most part, guys are creatures of habit and only change their
patterns when they are up to something new. Does his attitude towards
you seem a tad distant? Does he not make direct eye contact when
talking to you anymore? When he comes over to your place, does he
walk up to you and give you a hug or does he flop his fat ass down
on the couch to watch some t.v.?
Guys, same thing: When she walks in your front door does she
smile and give you a great big hug or does she casually stroll on
in and immediately start talking about her day? (which leads us
to the second sign)
2. Me, Me, Me.
Whenever someone wants to cease interpersonal communication
with another person (aside from not talking to them), they generally
more and more start to focus conversations on themselves. This is
so that they don’t have to make a concerted effort to maintain that
interpersonal relationship with you. In other words, they are mentally
checked out. How to tell if someone is mentally checked out of a
relationship? There is no easy answer for this one. People are
different. Sometimes he will use the word “I” instead of “we” when
talking about the two of you. Over time this can be a big indicator
that he is no longer interested in you. Look for a pattern in his
behavior that might suggest something is amiss. I would advise you
to be careful on this one though…..Psychologists have told us that
when you like someone, you tend to sometimes subconsciously emulate
different things about them. So after a few weeks of noticing your
boyfriend only talking about himself, you will find yourself having to
consciously steer the conversation away from him and back towards
you. This in and of itself can cause an issue.
3. “I don’t like the way that dress looks on you”.
What guy in his right mind would tell a girl he just started to date
that she needed to lose a few pounds? None that I know of. When
you are out shopping with him….has he suggested out of the blue
that you buy or wear a dress or shirt that you normally wouldn’t wear?
Or, does he suddenly not show an interest in how you look? This can
be a huge sign that he is no longer interested in you.
4. Gotta go, gotta go !!
In this day and age, most people are busier than they were 10-20
years ago. Cell phones, email, internet etc have opened up a whole
new realm of communication and have in many ways made our lives
easier, but at the same time these innovations have allowed us to
sometimes take on more than we can handle. This is not an excuse
for him to break date plans with you because “he is too busy”.
Staying late after work? Suddenly he is hanging out with his friends
more than he did when you first started dating? That “thing” that he
had to do early Saturday morning that wound up taking him all day?
These all can be construed as ways for him to try to start separating
himself from the relationship. Again, just because he stayed out late
one night and forgot to call you doesn’t necessarily mean he wants
out of the relationship.
5. James Bond.
Do you ever wonder if your boyfriend works for the CIA? Phone calls
that he doesn’t answer while you are in the car together….immediately
hiding his emails or whatever he is doing on the computer when you
walk by…..acting “shy” around that perky 18 year old girl who works
at the Starbucks counter?
Hrmm….
6. Blitzkrieg !!
Fighting is sometimes an inevitable counterpart of a relationship.
But when you start to notice that the fights are getting more and
more frequent, or are about trivial matters, this might be a sign he
is on his way out. No one likes to fight, unless they want something
out of it .
7. He went from “cock-strong, a-block-long” to a “2 minute man” overnight.
I don’t know about you guys….but when I first get into a serious
committed relationship, the sex is just fantastic. Over time, it does
get to be a routine thing and there are sometimes when either partner
is just not up to it. But when you start noticing him not doing the little
things in bed that he used to do when you first started dating, this might
be a good sign he is over it.
8. Silence is golden, let us be rich.
Has the conversation ceased to be meaningful and interesting?
Are you starting to notice him only talking when it is required by
conversation etiquette? Did he used to tell you funny anecdotes
and make witty comments, now only to throw out a half-assed
reply when it is dictated? You can test this theory by asking him
one or two questions that you know that would have made for a
great conversation early on in the relationship.
9. No future talk.
Is there any talk about your future together? Has he made any
plans for you to go out on a vacation or holiday somewhere lately?
Try making plans with him for a future event and watch closely his
reaction. Does he willingly agree to go with you, or do you get a
“We’ll….let’s play it by ear” type of response?
10. “I need some alone time”
This is so painfully obvious that I am really hesitant to list it here,
but I have noticed over the years that a few of my friends have
been so blinded by their love/infatuation with another person, that
they cannot get a hint even if he hired a Barbershop Quartet to
knock on your front door and sing in unison:
